Rise above your fears.

( From The Godly Chic Diaries)

Sometimes we get so caught up in the fear of things that we forget how strong we can be. We forget about that little light, that force, that magic inside that can help get us through. A journey is not linear. It has lots of twist and turns. It’s convoluted and complex. You will run into rough patches, but that’s all they are, patches. Just stay on your path, so when the hard times are over you will still be where you need to be. For those of us who are still working hard to get to that place. Keep your chin up and trust the process.


Be your best friend.

# Be your Best Friend.

We all have people that we feel we can trust and rely on. People who have once, twice or for several times lent us a hand when we fell ; our families or acquaintances. But as much as we think or believe so, the most trusted and loyal person you can ever have in your life is yourself. You are best friend of yourself that you can never have.

That you know you can and you should be your best friend, there is need for you also to understand that it is a prerequisite to establish a good relationship with yourself.

One great way of ensuring this is by spending quality time enriching and endowing yourself with the necessary knowledge by surrounding yourself with the best individuals and best books. What you feed your brain with really matters as far creating a suitable, serene environment with yourself is concerned. 

And like any other good relationship, you need to show appreciation and gratitude. You should be appreciative of who you are and that which you have. This would serve best to cut off self critics that can be result when you look at the best of life your friends have. Also it will help a lot in getting rid of the naysayers.Who enjoys being in the company of one who doesn’t appreciate them anyway? Having said this, I think I’m justified to jump to my next point.

Sometimes, what we want is not always available at the moment  of our great need. Don’t pressure yourself; it’s normal to be lacking. What isn’t normal is doing nothing about it to reverse the situation. You just have to give yourself some time as you work on it.
Avoid unhealthy comparison. We all have different capabilities and so it will be so unfair if you have yourself go for the lowest denominator because of what others have already accomplished. Maybe they have a lot of experience, and you are a start-up, in whichever field you are both in. You cannot be everyone else and you shouldn’t hang yourself by trying to be that way. Don’t try making yourself someone else’s photocopy. You just have be yourself, and unique. 

Do what motivates you. This is one way of exploring your talents and abilities. Focus your energy in making yourself better.

Don’t be hard on yourself whenever you make mistakes. Failure is nothing but a learning experience and you can use that knowledge to help you succeed next time. This’ll help keep your self esteem off the limits.

Relationships are like flowers; if you water them they’ll flourish but if you don’t they’ll wither away. Strengthen the bond between you and yourself. 

Thank you for reading and I hope this article has been of much help to you. Please like and drop your comments on the dialogue box below and make sure to revisit for more insights on living a happy life.

Why you should spend some time alone.

As social beings, it is our nature to find comfort in the company of our families, friends or workmates ; to enjoy the warmth of being surrounded by other people. Myself, one of my happier moments are those I go out with my friends for a ball game or coffee in the evenings. 

It is in such occasions that we happen to learn more by trading our minds, sharing our ideas and even open up and do things that we wouldn’t opt to or even think of in the company of some other people.

However, it is in these same moments that we can have our inner selves confronted with our self esteems going low and our brains running wild.  It is in such occasions, that we sometimes lose focus and forget our self worth.

When we spend all our time with other people we run at a risk of forgetting who we are, our real identity, what we want and begin trying to fit in everyone else’s image of an ideal person. We start trying to be who other people want us to be. We forsake our own lives and start living other people’s.

It is therefore most advisable to spend as much time with yourself as much as you do with others.

 After all the work throughout the day, you are most likely to be feeling so much exhausted and worked out, and you deserve some time in a quite environment to unwind. This will help cool down your mind which has probably been steaming with all kinds of thoughts all through under the pressure to see  everything done. This is the perfect time to relieve yourself of all the stress of the day.

 This can serve a great moment for you to find treasure in who you are, what you have and strategize on what you want; your goals and dreams.Our self worth goes high up the scale dramatically the moment we start being appreciative of ourselves, and this is the best time to do this. This will strongly boost your self esteem.

Spending some good time alone can be a great platform for you to master your emotions better by studying yourself and your reactions in the course of the day.

 You are able to make good use of your imaginative genius which is key  in exploring your abilities and your interests.

  It improves your concentration and also boosts you productivity in your career or profession.

 Your level of creativity shoots up.

 You are able to ponder over the challenges you are probably going through and come up with amicable solutions.

We need to spend some time alone to think.